As I broke an impasse: To construct a wall of a stone - to save itself from the psychopath

Hi everyone!

Girls write a lot of things about rather terrible situations as they try to get out of them as they change as build the relations further. Perhaps, my situation, though is not new, but also not strongly affects a brain. I will share with you as I manage to cope in difficult situations in work with emotions and not to fall with the upset feelings.

So, in brief I will tell that the chief at me, as well as at most of us (I am sure) not a gift. On Marina's posts about the new book about psychopaths I decided that my chief is not sick, it the real PSYCHOPATH. Also does all offenses deliberately and to set up you before the top management, and do not ask protection. Will wash, will sling mud, will humiliate, will press on your most intimate life priorities. And everything does easily, with laughter or with mad eyes, and after indifferently shares with you a new type of diets.

First all this frightened me, irritated, made cry, little girls supported because each of them was never insured from her swoops. In any day, at any time you or someone other of department could be her guinea pig. Therefore in department such routine, even "flints" left.

I write this post now, and most and really is ridiculous. Truth. We so got used to it, to its attacks, any more we trust nothing if promises, we are surprised to nothing if something comes not from this world.

To horror indecent, strikes with disgusting questions, indicates mistakes when itself it is constant in a scattered state: loses keys, drops mugs and glasses, spills teas on documents, writes not those figures, breaks tables, asks loaded questions. Just hysterical woman does not hesitate in communication with the top management. "Lets out a dragon" and rejoices the impudence.

The last — all trifles, the only thing what it is difficult to get used to is her boorish behavior with the employees. I constructed around myself surprisingly strong and transparent wall. When her statements flow in my address, on a subject of my professional unsuitability, my not knowledge of programs, laws and away, I build a wall. Words, I see them, hit against it and fall, being scattered on black letters. And so time is a lot of, I do not hear a phrase yet: "Everything, you can go!". No, I do not breathe a sigh of relief, I did not even strain, listening to it. Resistance to stress, now I understand value of this word.

Still read in one book that at communication with such people just it is worth adjusting itself on the following: Be not humiliated to their level, do not enter polemic though it happens and it is difficult. Yes, the Russian person is quick-tempered, he cannot suffer the unfair attitude towards himself, but I took out from that book what with such uncontrollable people of other exit how to become a heartless stone — is not present.

Every time at charges and different nasty phrases I assure myself that at present I strengthen the resistance to stress, I become stronger and am more hardy. It is an award to me in life, after the conversation with it I am afraid of nothing any more, other dismantling of people does not frighten me. In a stressful situation I will be able adequately to behave because to swear at it — it is useless, it to show the weakness and to allow the vampire to eat you, your energy. And I do not want to spend the forces for feed of any mad small animal.

All relations with the chief occur at the emotional level. I do not give myself "to gnaw", she looks for other victim. I, of course, observe people who leave exhausted excessively its office, but in their life they can draw a conclusion from a situation: either to be bitten, or to leave forever the sphere of communication with this being, or to become a stone and not to be humiliated to its level.

I convince nobody to trust me. To believe that there is such person. I assure, I see it 5 days a week, nearly 8 hours a day, at work. Such people are, just I ceased to treat the chief painfully, I am not afraid of her and her phrases, I am not afraid to be dismissed at her will because it will not occur. Yes, work not for me, there is nobody, so far there is a psychopath. But it, in turn tempers. I am glad, glad that came to this conclusion and I can fight against it at least so, at the power level, the subconsciousness.