Councils and Motivation or as I learn to be delicate

Similar were my environment in the gym always to me: ladies of various age, which since the childhood in sport. Maximum of problems: to come to a form after the delivery (holidays, diseases, operations, a break, etc.), but the sport was always a part of our life. I and my friends too, quite often gave advice "imperfect" to start going to the gym, to change a diet, to go more, to get a dog … In a word, today it is a shame to me with it. It is a shame with what I in fact advised people to change all life. And this not my life! Occupations physical is a habit, and I each council try to break to the person the cozy world even if I did it for the good, it is a shame to me today.

The reason for that one girl who started going to the gym about a month ago, Anna. It appeared on the racetrack before me, because of excess weight she could not run, it went and it had a short wind, it stopped and again rose on the exercise machine. It occurred within minutes of fifteen. For some reason at that moment I saw in it the fighter. After jog I asked it whether the help is necessary to it, she asked waters, and took it with herself in sports bar. She saw power bars, and I saw fight against desire to eat sweet on her face.

- Went, I will show you my favourite exercise machine! - I so told to take away it from temptation.
- To me probably, early on the exercise machine, - she whispered.
- I will only show! - I smiled and looked it in the face.

Worked! It went with me. Actually my favourite exercises are shells on which it is possible to work with a body weight, but for Anna it would be cruel: she would not hold a body weight (with a height of 160 cm it weighs 140 kg). Therefore I led her on "sedentary" exercise machines. Simple loadings were to the taste. I showed a little more exercises with a ball, once saw how the trainer of LFK trains gerontological group. I postponed the training, we went together to a sauna, chatted in process.

Anna has a food dependence and a low-dynamic way of life. In 27 years she she is IT specialist and not bad earns. At teenage age had … nervous bulimia!!! After massive gastric bleeding ceased to cause in itself vomiting, but in family the traditions of the strengthened food and passive rest, Anna's parents too full were put. She always realized that she grows stout, saw the photos and … adjusted in the photoshop.

The last years Anna strongly put on weight, at work she has a car to go from the shop to the shop and to install servers, but as the poor thing complained, servers are installed so that it is necessary to creep on a lap, to climb shaky ladders, quite often it is necessary to ask to make male colleagues work for it … And here men wrote complaints to the fat woman!!! What for? They consider that everyone has to cope with the duties. No, not the threat to lose work pushed Anna on trial free occupation in the gym, threat to find work is far from the house. She in panic is afraid of changes.

Having talked to it, I understood what costed it! What costs to the person, sitting in Facebook to press the Order a Trial Training button what it is worth going to shop and to buy a form of the size, thinking that the whole world at this moment gathered at a show-window of shop and shoots it with mobile phones that in the evening to lay out in the section of humour. What should be overcome itself and to come into the gym, to rise on the racetrack, without understanding even as it works. What should be approached and told after the first training "I want to come still", or "I will be engaged", or "I need personal occupation". And to what it is possible to compare efforts when everything hurts, and it is necessary to go on a training, and your body foully does not answer loading?

For myself I in the head presented that I come to department of physics in Paris, for example. I meet the head of the scientific project. Conversation which was born in my head:
- Do you speak French?
- No
- You were engaged in physics?
- Never
- But you want PhD at our university?
- Of course! All who were protected at you such clever and I want to be such!
Further I turn the life into hell: I learn language, physics, I do not see shifts, I lower hands, the depression attacks, I have no time for habitual occupations, colleagues by misfortune seem to me far more successfully. If I fight and I will find forces - I will pass it if is not present, then I will tell everything that it was unreal. Everything depends on whether the person who will believe in me will be near.

I like respect to Anna. I decided to become for Anna the person who believes in her. She signed the annual contract for visit of sport studio. We agreed with the trainer about individual occupations. I agreed with the trainer at once that he did not ask her about the purpose which she before herself sets, the main thing - to develop a habit.
Anna says to me that I am cool! Ah, Anna, you what I was prior to a meeting with you would know! Thank you that we met!