Gestures of the confident person...

- The father, and that the simplest in life?
- The simplest is to believe in itself.
- And what the most difficult?
- The most difficult - not to be deceived.

Whether thought sometime of it? When you are sure of yourself and when you just create such illusion? It is rather simple to us to force itself to believe in anything, but other question – as it is taken a detached view. For example, you came to an interview and do an exclusive type of the skilled professional who is a good judge of everything. It by all means will be reflected in a voice timbre, in position of the head, in a look. Perhaps, even your phrases will be more literary. Generally, you will be delighted with yourself. As a result be refused. What for strangeness? What not so? Only the detailed analysis of discrepancies in giving of the personality will be able to give you the constructive answer.


Often happens so that our "star" perception of quickly disappears during viewing of a video of some event and a celebration. We in detail meet the "I" on the screen and we find the mass of defects. And now turn on any news channel and observe behavior of the chief politicians. Their bearing, gait, poses, position of hands and legs – everything is so fulfilled and is free, unchained and is eloquent that it is simply impossible to doubt their self-confidence. It is a sign language and gestures which is brighter than any words shows ability of the person to attract numerous attention and to gain. This not so inherited quality, is possible for it and it is necessary to study. As they say "are not born heroes – become heroes". Let's start …


• Firm support

Let's remember the fine Soviet movie "Office romance" where the main character Novoseltsev, shifting from one foot to the other, nearly fainted before a management table. Remember - it is your anti-hero!
Your firmness and self-confidence have to be shown from the first acquaintance to the new person or collective. It is important at the time of negotiations when there is limited time for the general assessment and conclusions about partners. Physical stability and a correct posture make an impression about you, as about the person balanced and with an accurate position. Do not bend back not to lift up a chin and not to "rise" over people around. You hold a back directly and do not strain shoulders not to look so as if under a jacket there was a hanger. By the way, the separate training is demanded by high heels, they quite often bring us with stability.


• Gait

And again there is a wish to admire and admire politicians. How our presidents walk along corridors or on red carpets, becomes the best example for imitation. Free, prompt and relaxed gait. The self-assured person does not hurry, does not trip and does not pass into jumps or dashes. Its case is slightly inclined forward, foot passes from a heel to a toe. Hands the moderate wide movement only help a dynamic step. It is the activity and commitment felt at distance.


• Eye to eye

The running or constantly escaping look gives nervousness and shyness aside, and still can become an obvious signal that before you the liar or not absolutely sincere person. Self-assured and the words it is easy for person to look fool in the face to the interlocutor. It is desirable that this time from all conversation was not less than 2/3. I.e. times all of you will be able to translate a look and to express thereby natural emotions and a mimicry.

• Speech

If important dialogue is necessary to you, then be trained to answer questions or rehearse the main subjects. For example, for an interview prepare the short story summary, important qualities and achievements, etc. Then you should not think out on the run of a phrase, to remember convulsively terms, to make long pauses and being confused to whisper something like "here poor memory" … All this not in the best way will affect result. The words "parasites", frequent repetition of the unions, drawing "well", "and", I do to "m" a monologue boring and less informative. It is important to learn to speak briefly and in fact. At the same time the subtle humour and an emotional component will become only ornament.

• Where to put hands

For many at the time of nervousness of a hand it is almost excess detail of a trunk. They are eternally stirred and there is no opportunity to find it occupation. Some convulsively "shift" them from a pocket in a pocket, others actively finger the found piece of paper or a detail of clothes, the third put them in "lock" on a breast. It is excluded. You very clearly give fear, nervousness and uncertainty. It is time "to get it together", to be exact to make for them room in the image. Try that gestures were open, i.e. avoid crossing of extremities. In a conversation support statements by separate gestures. For example, make a lodge of the divorced fingers. It is a strong indication of your accurate position and awareness of the commitment. Demonstration of thumbs of hands (in gestures, from pockets) means certain superiority and domination.


So, to achieve progress in the behavior, it is possible to take skill lessons from influential politicians or from the fallen in love filmstars. What is costed by only one Miranda Priestley in "The Devil Wears Prada". Do not copy these images, do not live them, and only notice details which will add to you exclusiveness and charm. Self-confidence is one of the most important properties of the personality which in the shortest way will result you in success, both in career, and in the personal plan.