Fearful vengeance of the screenwriter

I seldom do reposts of someone else's texts from the Internet. But this text not absolutely from the Internet, and, unfortunately, very few people will see it because it in mailing of the famous screenwriter Alexander Molchanov who has the Scenario Workshop, and on whom I am signed many years.

I provide this text entirely and I will put an icon of the copyright. All rights for this text at Alexander Molchanov.

Once many years ago we rented apartment at one young young lady. In few months she told that she swore with the young man and expelled us from the apartment. It occurred one week prior to new year and we appeared in very difficult situation. To look for rental housing in Moscow at the height of New Year's holidays – that still quest, I will report to you.

Since then all prostitutes who were killed in my series were called in the same way as this girl. And prostitutes in my series were killed often. Killed cruelly. Killed it is realistic. Killed with skill.

Room hostesses! When you lease the apartments to screenwriters, be polite and correct! Always meet terms of the contract! And that, you understand …

Over time I noticed that with such each imagined murder of the room hostess it did not become easier for me. Revenge intoxicated, but did not give relief. Revenge intoxicated and at the same time poisoned …

And once I forgave her.

I felt as though the huge stone fell from my soul.

I think, each of us has it – someone does us a muck or meanness. Tells something offensive. And we show ourselves cinema with this episode again and again, irritating the anger and offense. We represent how we answer the offender as we its otbrivay, we want to see pain and confusion on his impudent face.

Try to forgive him.

Treat it as to a technical task. To exercise. Let it will be for fun.

Training forgiveness.

Wonder – kind of you felt if you forgave him?
Imagine a scene in which you speak to this person: I forgive you.
Try right now.
Remember some episode when you were offended.
Also forgive your offender.

The founder of the training company "Mindvalley" of Lakyani Cherries in the book "Code of an Ekstraordinarnost" tells about how he participated in the Forty Years of a Zen program. It the program was developed by Dave Esprey, it is constructed on tracking of activity of a brain and correction of this activity by means of various emotions. And so, investigating various emotions, Esprey found out what made the strongest positive impact on a brain – to Tats! Forgiveness!

Let's put aside a karma, religious views and social consequences of forgiveness now.

Also we will focus that forgiveness is what brings the maximum benefit to your brain. It how to go out of doors from the smoked room.

Present that you have a magic button "feel well" and you can press it at any time.

And it not just pleasure because the pleasure can quite devour your resources.
In this case is a pleasure along with which you receive almost unlimited resource in the order. Unlimited!

Let's be trained.

Remember your some offender. Present that moment and those circumstances under which the offense was caused you. Experience this moment. Remember that you saw and heard that you felt at that moment. And – forgive your offender.


It's a go?
Well, though a little?

As the captain Myshlayevsky used to say, it is reached by exercise.

When next time you catch yourself that you twist the old offense in the head, think here of what.

When you chew on the 100-th time the offenses, and especially when you cherish plans to sweep (well, of course, not plans are dreams of revenge) when you do it, you lose energy. You literally bleed profusely. You were once wounded, the wound healed, and here you put it to yourself anew.
To your offender from it neither warmly, nor it is cold. And to you badly also it becomes worse and worse. I experienced it on myself - with each killed prostitute I felt worse and worse.

And when you forgive the villain, you as though turn him into the accumulator, stick in it electrodes and begin to be sated with the most net and greatest energy in the world.

Such way of revenge looks more graceful and eco-friendly, isn't that so?

However the ability to forgive – does not mean vulnerability.

If you were hit, to turn other cheek – it is at least unsafe because, obviously, you can be hit also on other cheek.
If you are beaten – it is necessary to be protected. If the only way of protection adequate to a situation - it attack, so it is necessary to attack.
If you were robbed, it is necessary to try to put the thief in prison that he had no opportunity to rob you once again. If you were hit – it is necessary to make so that you were not hit once again. If you see that you will be hit now – it is necessary to beat with the first.
And after the threat passed, you can relax and forgive an aggressor.

Remember: Forgiveness – the easiest and fast way to charge the mental batteries.

Make: Remember some goat right now and forgive him.

Ator of the text Alexander Molchanov©

Write in comments whether there is in your life such offense which you to these cannot forgive?