Education by a belt

There now! My statements about psychology education of children - caused a squall of angry comments from mothers. Unfortunately actually it is not cheerful. Because most of people consider that to beat children - it is normal and and it is necessary. That only this way, it is possible to inform of something the child. To compare the child to a pig and to hold to him up as an example the neighbour's girl or the boy - too norm. Many people are aggressive and instead of cultivating reasonable thinking what action to what leads - by the experience in the child, by examples - they decide to develop in the child "I do not do because it will get/is terrible". But not because understood that to what leads.
Therefore, often happens that mothers complain to psychologists, or still to someone: "my daughter with me what does not share", or "at my son friends is one many more senior than him, I worry, he does not share with me". So and why to it shares with you if it has an experience what for its mistakes to it arrives by a belt? To it it will be terrible that it will come to you with a problem, and you or will begin to lecture for a belt. At any child, basic requirement that listened to him, paid attention, but there is no basic need for receiving a belt. And when at the child something happens, he already kind of... does not trust you on so many to come and will share.
He is a child, he does not know how to do in this or that situation right thing. And the parent's task - to explain, show, give some examples from experience. Adults are mistaken too, let perhaps it will seem rough, but you (I hope) do not go to beat with a belt the mother, for the fact that she owing to age, forgot to drink drugs in time. And to the child for some reason often arrives from parents for mistakes, pranks