"The divorce broke my life. The seller of perfumery returned me it again..."

Today found in the Internet article which is very close to that situation which was endured by me personally.
I place it in the heading "Break a Vital Impasse", Paragraph of the Part it just about it.
She, of course, does not participate in a competition, with Paragraph of the Part not I, but related wrote it to me soul

So, here, that she writes:

Sometimes most it is better what you can make is to listen.

"Once long ago I read the psychologist's column in our local newspaper. Every time when it came about a divorce, she suggested to wonder honestly:

It is better for you with it or without it?

I never asked myself this question until my 30 years' marriage collapsed in front of my eyes.
It was cruelly and suddenly. About our family nobody could assume that it will end here so. As I would answer this question?
I do not know. I was devastated and broken by a divorce. Least of all on light I would like to return to these relations after my world failed.

My parents divorced when I was little, and I swore that I will never divorce. But life had other plans as it often happens.

I was absolutely lost. We have a small town and least of all on light I wanted to become a subject of discussion. I was locked houses with children and roared days without a break. I so dreamed to share the grief though with someone, but was afraid to make it.
We have good neighbors. Our children play together, we suit joint barbecues and when someone gets sick or dies, neighbors come to help to cope with a trouble.

Will come to nobody to mind to bring you a house lasagna if you divorced. Not a funeral.

Though I do not see a special difference how your internal Vselennnaya will die when you were left by the loved one.

I long could not admit, how strongly I suffer. So far one day did not throw out everything to the first counter woman who agreed to listen to me.

I came into our supermarket, and the seller of perfumery approached me with a bottle sampler.
"You look, these spirits are called "Beauty", they are very popular with brides".

I do not know what on me found, but I looked with it in eyes and told by absolutely killed voice: "I divorced three days ago".

And her face felt such genuine sympathy that it me broke through. I spoke and spoke, and she stood and just listened to me with participation and kindness.

I do not remember that she told me, but I left shop with hope and even inflow of joy. This kind woman never learns how strongly she helped me.

It was so suddenly, so sincerely and appropriate, especially from absolutely stranger that … Probably, to tell that it returned me to life it will not be too grandiloquent. I really recovered after the conversation with it.

I always treated life is contemplate. I am a writer and the gardener. When I remain alone with the thoughts and the flowers, I create the new worlds in imagination.

I never thought of how it is easy to destroy someone's world, it simply did not come to my mind, did not happen to me yet.
And never came to my mind, it is how easily possible to give to the person new hope and to return him to life.

The kind, wonderful, unfamiliar woman from shop of perfumery, thanks to you …"


Barbara Taylor Sissel, American writer, author of several best-sellers.