Solo therapy or How to cope with melancholy

Of course, it is possible to be cried to the loved one (darling, mother, the girlfriend, etc.) in a vest, then the law of speech absorption of emotions will work. But, besides, I for myself opened improbable action of music on our subconsciousness for a long time. Though it was opened by scientists to me, but nevertheless. But not only music is capable to improve mood, and also and, as a matter of fact, solo singing. When to us it is good and joyful, we sing to ourselves something pleasant and favourite, and then it is even better for us. Isn't it? Then why not to turn back bad mood the same way? Let the law of speech self-influence will work: verbal expression of emotion forms this emotion at speaking.

Singing through positive emotions in the song, we thereby kind of program ourselves on these emotions. For the first time, when I decided on similar therapy, somehow even was not believed that will help, but all I tried to approach desirable result.

• And everything began with the fact that at first I at bad mood began to listen to cheerful rousing tunes. Emotional waves of such music kind of infect with the positivity. The most pleasant such minutes is that bad thoughts fade into the background, and some are at all forgotten. The most important – to want most, otherwise therapy will not make sense as, however, and any other.

• Begin to move in the same rhythm, throw off from yourself dust of a negative and reveal to yourself. Forget, perhaps natural, constraint. Hollow and social roles, undoubtedly, left on us the indelible mark, but alone with itself it is possible to be valid itself.

• Let out from yourself that animal who lives in you. The phrase "is known to all do not awake in me an animal, I am not afraid of hamsters". But not in each woman there lives a hamster. Evolution of female psychology today such is that our "animals" are far not so harmless as men consider. When my husband is nearby, of course, as well as many couples, we sometimes swear. Let on trifles, but the fact remains. At such moments I tell him the favourite phrase "I warm and fuzzy as a slipper, but I can be tough and dangerous as a mamba". He knows that it indeed actually. Perhaps therefore the hubby tries not to awake in me that animal?

• Sing if the song to you to liking, even provided that words are a little familiar, sing. Thereby you exhaust. Even if there are no hearing and a voice, it is possible to sing, let it is not loud, but singing in itself releases from a negative. Activate in yourself positive emotions.

• Sing a karaoke song. It is very positive process. The main thing that it was pleasant to you most. Feel the freedom! Many hesitate to sing in karaoke bars. But it is possible to sing a karaoke also houses when members of household are absent (if you are afraid or you do not want to hear from them some criticism in the address).

Even if this idea absurd seems to you, remember D. Carnegie's words "The mask of cheerfulness turns into cheerfulness". The same concerns also bad mood, tears: if to give in to tears, despondency, to begin to complain much, then the emotional and physical condition of the person will worsen: "Tears generate grief, and not vice versa" (K. Lagne).

Also, it would be desirable to add that the law of speech absorption of emotions about which I mentioned above says: at the coherent story about the experienced emotion it is absorbed by the speech and disappears. But, on my understanding, this effect can be enhanced. Having sung even if about yourself, some negative emotion (the aspect which caused grief), afterwards (kind of derisively over this aspect) sing something encouraging.

There are such moments in life when having woken up in the morning, you understand that there are no more than forces for fight against the collected problems. From it it is very sad, but you should not fall into apathy and the more so to lower before such tests (otherwise I cannot call vital problems, because all of them, some kind of, tests in any way) hands. Such minutes to me lyrics from the famous movie "Naval Cadets, Forward!" are often remembered: "Not to be discouraged, naval cadets whether life is difficult, or it is good …".

Among other things, singing helps also at communication. Ask how? With your permission, dear reader, I will give an example of one my acquaintance:

Since the childhood Vasily (the name is changed for obvious reasons) talked quietly. I would even tell, is so quiet and peaceful that practically nobody paid attention to his words. Vasily either was not heard, or not perceived seriously. So was in a garden and at school, but, having entered the institute, the guy got to the company of exclusively singing youth. Helped to train it a voice, and he began to sing together with the others. Now it is pleasant to listen to it, he is able to vary a voice timbre so that paid attention to his words. A year ago Vasya opened the small case on repair of computers and office equipment.

Ask to what it is told? And to the fact that only thanks to singing and the desire, the person became noticeable. It seems also talks as usual, but after a while, carried out in a conversation with it, you understand that that silent and monotonous speech is absent. And it directs at some reflections.

Sing on health and joy to and to relatives.